But allow me a tangent, because this brings up a broader warning that I feel is in order. If I could impart one piece of music-related advice to every American, it’s to resist the urge to declare blanket opposition; to proclaim that all pop, or hip-hop, or reggae, or music made after 1970 (or whatever) is dead or dying, just because you feel like it no longer speaks to you. Too many people allow their tastes to ossify — to cast their loves in amber with the onset of adult responsibilities — or, worse, allow fatigue to harden into embitterment.
I’m not here to tell anyone to fake enthusiasm, but remaining notionally open to new ideas and art is a hallmark of an active, vigorous mind. Remaining open to enjoyment is a path to, well, enjoyment. In every phase of your life, work to combat atrophy and routine, and to welcome experiences and art forms that make life feel fuller and longer. Isolate the voice in your head that’s yelling at music to get off your lawn. Interrogate that voice; challenge it; don’t settle for it
THE FEMALE INTERVIEW :
…what’s in your bag?
…how did you manage?
…what do you eat?
…what’s your workout?
THE MALE INTERVIEW :
…what are your thoughts on…?
…how do you feel about…?
…Tell me more about this accomplishment.
…What is your advice to…?
Until these disparities stop appearing in magazines, blogs, YAHOO NEWS, VOGUE, THE NEW YORK TIMES, and on TV, we won’t be valued equally. Until we stop asking women how they bend, shrink, and CHANGE themselves for success, we won’t applaud success equally. Don’t ask her questions that beg for an excuse, if you are not willing to ask him the same. Wisdom is not having all the answers, but knowing which questions to ask. Let’s get a little wiser and ask better questions.
New York Fashion Week, let’s start with you. Don’t ask how she prepared for the show if you’re going to ask him what his VISION is for the line. Don’t ask her to reveal her tricks if you’re going to ask him how he INSPIRES others. Don’t ask her about her failures if your going to ask him about the lessons he has learned. We’ve succeeded because we have found our own way, not someone else’s
Reporters, your questions reek of prejudice and murder the possibility of a fair game.